At some point in our lives, we all must deal with the loss of someone we love. The loss may come after a lengthy illness, or it may come suddenly…However it happens, we must cope with the person’s absence and deal with our grief.
Often, when we don’t want to face something, we deny that it is happening. Denial is a defense mechanism that’s used to help numb the initial shock of a loss. We tell ourselves that what is happening isn’t happening: We block out the news we are hearing and the reality that is upon us. When life changes in an instant, we tend to want to believe that it isn’t really happening. This is way to deal with the overwhelming emotions a loss brings about. By denying the loss, some of the impact of the initial shock is spread out so that we don’t have to absorb it all at once.
- Denial: Mental Health and Behavior
- The Denial of Reality
- Understanding Denial as a Defense Mechanism
- Living With an Empty Chair
Denial can only last for a while: The pain of reality must eventually emerge. That pain is often manifested as anger. We may direct that anger at the person we have lost or at others around us. We may ask questions such as, “why me?” We don’t understand why something so painful has happened. Those of strong faith may be angry at whatever higher power they believe in. Anger is a natural and necessary part of the process. It is what reconnects us with reality, as painful as it is.
- Anger Management
- The Connection Between Anger and Grief
- Loss and Anger
- Anger: Grief’s Irate Companion
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What if we planned our lives well instead of
just going through the motions?
What if we planned our end of life, long before a diagnosis, long before we were dying?
What if we learned about grief -before the grief
so we could diffuse the fear?
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Surviving the Holidays A special seminar to help you cope with the holiday season.
Holidays, birthdays and anniversaries are often joyous. But special family occasions can feel bittersweet, lonely or sad when someone you love has died. If you’ve lost someone close to you, Legacy has experts and other resources to help you cope during holiday seasons and throughout the year.
- Surviving the Holidays: Thoughts on Coping
- Ghosts of Christmas Past, by Joanetta Hendel
- Hospice Foundation of America’s Tips on Coping with Grief during Holidays
- I’m not yet Ready, Yet – by Darcie D. Sims
- The Snowbird, by Marion Schoeberlein
- Suspension, by Reverend Sallirae Henderson
- Tips for Handling the Holidays
- Christmas Spirit, by John M. Briley, Jr.
- How To Help Ourselves Through the Holidays