At some point in our lives, we all must deal with the loss of someone we love. The loss may come after a lengthy illness, or it may come suddenly...However it happens, we must cope with the person’s absence and deal with our grief.
Often, when we don’t want to face something, we deny that it is happening. Denial is a defense mechanism that’s used to help numb the initial shock of a loss. We tell ourselves that what is happening isn’t happening: We block out the news we are hearing and the reality that is upon us. When life changes in an instant, we tend to want to believe that it isn’t really happening. This is way to deal with the overwhelming emotions a loss brings about. By denying the loss, some of the impact of the initial shock is spread out so that we don’t have to absorb it all at once.
Denial can only last for a while: The pain of reality must eventually emerge. That pain is often manifested as anger. We may direct that anger at the person we have lost or at others around us. We may ask questions such as, “why me?” We don’t understand why something so painful has happened. Those of strong faith may be angry at whatever higher power they believe in. Anger is a natural and necessary part of the process. It is what reconnects us with reality, as painful as it is. Excerpt from full article Nursing Home Guide: Coping with Death & Grief
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Transforming Our Grief by Just Showing Up | Yvonne Heath | TEDxOrillia
Working in healthcare for almost 30 years, Yvonne Heath realized that many people are ill-prepared to navigate through grief, heartache and life’s challenges and suffer excessively. But there is a better way. What if we could talk about, plan and prepare for grief BEFORE grief arrives? What if we learned to Just Show Up for ourselves and each other?
One Solution to One of the Most Painful Issues
Grief is the normal human response to loss. Unfortunately there is little information on how to resolve the intense conflicting emotions caused by life events. Edu-Therapy™ Grief Resolution is an easy to use model that reduces and eliminates intense uncomfortable emotional responses to loss, trauma, and abuse. The 4-day Certification Training teaches the most effective process that resolves the pain caused by the conflicting emotions of a meaningful loss.
The Grief Edu-Therapy™ Process is a two-phase cognitive behavioural model that:
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- The Grief Edu-Therapy™ Process moves grievers into the present
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Two of the most common questions we hear from professionals and caregivers are,
“How can I more effectively help my community or clients?” and “How can I help them help themselves?”
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